Adam Wilson, Mackenzie Wilson, Mason Wilson, and Jeremiah Wilson
“…It’s crazy to see the contrast to the boy [Jeremiah] I met last November. For all of the best reasons, he is nowhere close to the same person I road-tripped across the country with at the beginning of March. He is all smiles all the time, and always laughing and making jokes…” – Adam Wilson (Adoptive Father)
Adam Wilson, 40
I am a software engineer of about 25 years. I have experimented with different occupations in the meantime (IT, Paramedic, etc.), but this allows me to be home when my kids are.
All three of my kids are adopted: Mackenzie Wilson, 18, Mason Wilson, 16 and Jeremiah Wilson, 14.
Mason and Mackenzie were adopted in August 2018 and Jeremiah was adopted in June 2021.
I fostered Mason and Mackenzie for about 14 months, and Jeremiah for three months (Which was the bare minimum. He was ready and excited to be adopted).
I learned about Jeremiah and the other ~20 kiddos that were part of my initial search through AdoptUSkids.org.
On day two of our first weekend meeting each other, we had some really great conversations and I could not help but fall in love with him. Before that, his adoptions worker was amazing at helping me learn about Jeremiah. And her excitement about him seeming like a good fit for us definitely helped my optimism.
The hardest part about this adoption was having to leave Jeremiah each time I flew home from a visit. I felt like he was mine early on, so it was like leaving one of my own each time. And his placement at the time was not willing to help support the transition. So when I was not there, I was almost completely in the dark.
It has always been all excitement and love. We really had a good time together when I would fly down to visit. The last month before the transition was really hard because I could not establish a line of communication with his placement at the time, and Jeremiah was having a hard time but I could not do anything to help support him.
I have been surprised and elated at how well (and quickly) he has settled in, and how willing he has been to become part of our family. I can tell by the things he says and does, along with the progress he has made and walls he has torn down, that he is very happy to be somewhere where he can relax and focus on growing and exploring himself and who he wants to be.
One of the cool things about adoption is that we have grown our extended family as well as our immediate family. Sometimes it takes a little work, but it is fun to see extended family share in our excitement as we go and grow!
I do not think I necessarily have a quote about adoption. But if I did, it would probably encourage parents to learn about and explore these kids’ interests and to be cautious about having too many expectations too early. I have realized that the more open and accepting I can be in the beginning, the easier it is to guide and coach later on.
One thing I always tell prospective parents is to be flexible. When you are dealing with humans and humanity, things rarely go according to plan. There is always a plan in place, because that is how the bureaucracy works. But the more flexible you can be, the easier it makes things.
I have never regretted having a kiddo in my home. Every one I have had has been amazing in their own way. They each have their struggles and things to figure out. So sometimes they have a hard time knowing how to control and where to direct their anger and confusion. But if your actions have shown that you are here to help, they’ll almost always be grateful and loveable.
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